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Myths
Sometimes misinformation is spread by word of mouth or by the news
media. This section exists to provide answers to common myths.
Myth: People don't overcome same-sex attraction.
Myth:
People are born gay. It's all genetic.
Myth:
The psychological associations in America denounce trying to change. It
is unethical to even try.
Myth: All the efforts to make people change are doing more harm than good.
Myth: Organizations that try to help people to change are failing.
Myth: Evergreen uses torturous aversion therapy to make people straight.
Myth: You can encourage same-gender sexual
relationships and still be aligned with Church doctrines
Myth:
If you don't agree with the gay activists, you are a homophobe
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Myth: People don't overcome same-sex attraction. |
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One common myth is that people don't overcome same-sex
attraction. Some people would like the public to believe that no one really
changes. They claim that individuals who say they have overcome it either
(1) didn't really experience same-sex attraction in the first place or (2)
they are only suppressing their true feelings and will someday realize it.
The truth is that many people find success in overcoming homosexual
behavior, diminishing same-sex attraction, resolving internal conflicts, and
living according to their personal and religious values. For proof of the
many who are successful, read the
testimonies on this Web site, read books
that recount their experiences, or attend the
annual
Evergreen conference. The following information may also be helpful:
Just the Facts by David Pruden,
Executive Director of Evergreen International
In their ongoing war of misinformation, activists spread rumors that all those who have written books or otherwise publicly shared their
story of change either do not exist or have returned to a gay identity.
This just isn't true.
Gay-To-Straight Research Published In APA Journal
The American Psychological Association's prestigious
journal Professional Psychology: Research and Practice has just
published a comprehensive research paper on sexual-orientation change.
Clients have the right to pursue change, the author says, because "sexual
orientation, once thought to be an unchanging trait, is actually quite
flexible for some people...."My literature review contradicts the policies
of major mental health organizations because it suggests that sexual
orientation, once thought to be an unchanging sexual trait, is actually
quite flexible for many people, changing as a result of therapy for some,
ministry for others and spontaneously for still others."
Dr. Spitzer recognizes that some people can
and do change
Dr. Robert Spitzer, who was one of the key figures
behind the American Psychiatric Association's (APA) decision to remove
homosexuality from the Diagnostic & Statistical Manual in 1973, now
believes that "some people can and do change. Like most psychiatrists, I
thought that homosexual behavior could only be resisted, and that no one
could really change their sexual orientation. I now believe this to be
false."
Is Sexual Re-orientation Possible?
by Warren Throckmorton, PhD
For some, answering this question...is a simple matter
of finding an instance of sexual reorientation. And they are easy to find,
if you look. So for them, this question is quickly answered in the
affirmative. However, for others, the question is theoretical. Some have
decided that sexual reorientation is impossible and therefore any change
that an individual might claim could not possibly be sexual reorientation.
Homosexuality and the
Possibility of Change: A Review of 31 Published Studies
[This article was previously published at
New Directions, Canada, but is no
longer available online.]
This study looked for changes in behavior, identity,
attractions, desires, and fantasies to see if a homosexual person can
become exclusively heterosexual. Rather than looking for stories of those
who claim to have experienced change or statements made by psychiatrists
and psychologists, they focused on actual research to provide evidence for
change. They found major changes (such as exclusively homosexual people
becoming exclusively heterosexual) and they found small changes (such as a
homosexual person gaining the ability to be sexually involved with the
opposite sex in satisfying ways).
Their conclusion: “Our research has shown the statement
‘homosexuals can't change’ to be a generalization. Various sources provide
evidence for a partial or full shift in sexual orientation. Such evidence
does not mean that every homosexual person should change. It does not mean
that everyone can change. It does not mean that change is easy. It does
mean that, at least for some people, change of sexual orientation is
possible.”
John Paulk
John and his wife appeared in the national media to tell
their story of overcoming same-sex attraction. Later, John was spotted in
a gay bar and the gay media reported it as proof that he had gone back to
homosexuality. While it was a serious mistake, it does not mean that John
has reverted to homosexuality.
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Myth:
People are born gay. It's all genetic. |
Some scientists have intently tried to discover scientific
proof that homosexuality is genetic, and therefore, cannot be changed. Some
studies hint at a biological component, but have not proven that same-sex
attraction is simply caused by genetics, or that such a potential cause
overrules the possibility that people can change such attractions.
What Causes Same-sex
Attraction?
by Jason Park
It is difficult to develop theories about the origins of
same-sex attractions because no single theory fits every situation. Sexual
and emotional issues are the result of a complex interaction of
personality, biological inheritance, and developmental experiences.
The Innate-Immutable Argument
Finds No Basis in Science: In Their Own Words: Gay Activists Speak About
Science, Morality, Philosophy
by A. Dean Byrd, Ph.D.;
Shirley E. Cox, Ph.D.; and Jeffrey W. Robinson, Ph.D.
Scientific attempts to demonstrate that homosexual
attraction is purely biologically determined have failed. The major researchers
now prominent in the scientific arena–themselves
gay activists–have in fact arrived at such
conclusions.
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Myth:
The psychological associations in America denounce trying to change. It
is unethical to even try. |
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Many professional organizations have made statements about
the ineffectiveness and potential damage that can be caused by reparative or
conversion therapy. They claim that the potential risks of such therapy
include depression, anxiety, and self-destructive behavior. The American
Psychological Association's Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual Issues Committee
lobbied for years against the right of individuals to receive treatment for
unwanted same-sex attractions
and have pressured the APA to ban scientists from studying the viability of
gender-affirmative therapy. The Bottom Line:
Evergreen does not advocate any particular form of therapy. However, if a client
make a personal choice to reject a gay lifestyle and seek any form of therapy
for any reason (including religious or spiritual reasons), the ethical implication for
any professional is to respect the client’s choice. One of the most efficient ways to
ensure that an individual makes a free and voluntary choice within an
ethical framework is through advanced informed consent to treatment. As a
science that emphasizes the celebration of individual differences,
psychological associations and practitioners should preserve the rights of
all people–including those with unwanted same-sex attraction–to choose and
pursue their own values, lifestyle, and especially, treatment.
It is unethical for a
therapist to try to convince a client that he/she should change from
homosexuality to heterosexuality. However, it is equally unethical for a
therapist to tell a client to remain in homosexuality when he/she has
determined that homosexuality does not fit with his/her personal values and
has come to the therapist for help in overcoming it. Ethical therapy is
where the therapist presents alternatives, and lets the client make
decisions for him/herself. Individuals have a right to know that prevention
and effective treatment are available. A variety of studies have shown that
between 25% and 50% of those seeking treatment experienced significant
improvement.
Gender-affirmative therapies have recently found increasing interest by
organizations and therapists who believe in helping people who have
determined for themselves that they want to overcome unwanted same-sex
attractions.
Consider the words of the Executive Director of the American
Psychological Association, Raymond Fowler: "The APA's position on reparative
therapy is that those who wish to explore developing heterosexual feelings
or behavior have a right to do so as part of every client's right to
self-determination. If an individual is comfortable with homosexuality, it
is not the role of the therapist to convince the client otherwise. If one's
feelings are ego-dystonic and there is a desire to talk about changing, that
is an acceptable choice and a psychologist may participate if he or she
desires."
Background
In
the 1970s, the American Psychiatric Association determined that
homosexuality is not a disease or disorder and they expunged such
descriptions from their literature.
APA Journal Article Says Gender-Affirmative
Therapy Should be Available
A 2002 article published by the American Psychological
Association journal Psychotherapy: Theory, Research, Practice, Training defends the ethics and effectiveness of
gender-affirmative therapy.
Psychology Today Editor Says APA
Does Not Condemn Change Therapy
In an editorial titled "Am I Anti-Gay? You Be the Judge"
in the Jan./Feb. 2003 issue of Psychology Today, editor Robert
Epstein, Ph.D., defends gender-affirmative therapy as ethical and
responsible.
Dr. Spitzer recognizes that some people can
and do change
Dr. Robert Spitzer, who was one of the key figures
behind the American Psychiatric Association's (APA) decision to remove
homosexuality from the Diagnostic & Statistical Manual in 1973, now
believes that "some people can and do change. Like most psychiatrists, I
thought that homosexual behavior could only be resisted, and that no one
could really change their sexual orientation. I now believe this to be
false."
Tolerance - APA Discriminates Against
Ex-Gays: Robert Spitzer, MD -- From "Gay" to Straight?
By Dr. F. Earle Fox
Twenty eight years ago, in 1973, Dr. Robert Spitzer
played a major role in the change of the American Psychiatric
Association's (APA) stance on homosexuality, beginning the move toward the
full acceptance of homosexuality as normal rather than pathological. In
recent years, the APA let it be known that it does not approve of
"reparative" or "transformational" therapy.... But recently the same Dr. Spitzer has come to believe that at
least some homosexual persons can indeed come out of that lifestyle and
lead normal heterosexual married lives -- causing no small storm in the
homosexual community.
Don't Forsake
Homosexuals Who Want Help By Charles
Socarides, Benjamin Kaufman, Joseph Nicolosi, Jeffrey Satinover and
Richard Fitzgibbons. From Letters to the Editor, The Wall Street
Journal, January 9, 1997.
Every day young men seek help because they are
experiencing an unwanted sexual attraction to other men, and are told that
their condition is untreatable. It is not surprising that many of these
young men fall into depression or despair when they are informed that a
normal life with a wife and children is never to be theirs.... Young men
and the parents of at-risk males have a right to know that prevention and
effective treatment are available. They have a right to expect that every
professional they consult will inform them of all their therapeutic
options and allow them to make their own choices based on the best
clinical evidence. A variety of studies have shown that between 25% and
50% of those seeking treatment experienced significant improvement. If a
therapist feels for whatever reason that he cannot treat someone of this
condition, he has an obligation to refer the patient to someone who will.
Some Psychologists Say
Reparative Therapy is Unethical: Yet Modern Methods are Healing and
Client-Centered by Charlotte Rosenak,
Ph.D. The Counseling Psychologist, 27 (5), 722-742.
There is an abundance of clinical data that suggests
reparative therapy can help clients achieve more responsiveness to the
opposite sex....To not provide clients with what they request when the
request is a reasonable one is irresponsible and unethical. It is also our
social responsibility to let people know that the development of
homosexuality as we know it today has not been proven to be a genetic
inevitability, and that alternatives to embracing the homosexual lifestyle
do exist.
Research Published In APA Journal
The American Psychological Association's prestigious
journal Professional Psychology: Research and Practice published a
comprehensive research paper on sexual-orientation change in June 2002.
Clients have the right to pursue change, the author says, because "sexual
orientation, once thought to be an unchanging trait, is actually quite
flexible for some people."
Many Professionals Support
Clients' Rights for Gender-Affirmative Therapy
Former heads of the APA and other professional
associations state that a client has the right to pursue change and that
such therapy can be helpful.
Clients Have a Right to
Seek Change
The American Counseling Association defends the right of
people to determine whether or not they should seek counseling to change
sexual identity.
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Myth: All the efforts to make people change are doing more harm than good. |
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People sometimes try to discredit the efforts of people who
are changing their lives, saying that the stress and effort to try to change
only tears families apart and causes more harm than good. In reality, their
are thousands of people who improve their lives by resolving their internal
conflicts, so they can live according to their personal values and keep
their families together. Of course, there are those who do not succeed. Some
of these people are vocal and try to convince others that no one is
succeeding. For
proof of the many who are successful, read the
testimonies on this Web site, read books
that recount their experiences, or attend the annual
Evergreen conference. The following information shows the positive
effects in people's lives.
While it is true that no one should be coerced into
treatment, the reverse is also true that no one should be denied treatment
if they want it. Ultimately, it is an issue of personal freedom and
self-determination.
Psychology
Today Editor Defends Gender-Affirmative Therapy
In an editorial titled "Am I Anti-Gay? You Be the Judge"
in the Jan./Feb. 2003 issue of Psychology Today, editor Robert
Epstein, Ph.D., defends sexual gender-affirmative therapy and responds to
recent criticism from the gay community.
Is Sexual Re-orientation Possible?
by Warren Throckmorton, PhD
Where's the evidence for the contention of harm? The
only place I read about harm is in the statements of the professional
associations. However, they give no references, advance no research
showing harm. The objective of conversion has never been demonstrated to
be harmful in itself.
Some Psychologists Say
Reparative Therapy is Unethical: Yet Modern Methods are Healing and
Client-Centered by Charlotte Rosenak,
Ph.D. The Counseling Psychologist, 27 (5), 722-742.
...reparative therapy as it is currently practiced
today, has not been demonstrated to harm clients. There is an abundance of
clinical data that suggests reparative therapy can help clients achieve
more responsiveness to the opposite sex....To not provide clients with
what they request when the request is a reasonable one is irresponsible
and unethical. It is also our social responsibility to let people know
that the development of homosexuality as we know it today has not been
proven to be a genetic inevitability, and that alternatives to embracing
the homosexual lifestyle do exist.
Treatment is Ethical
While it is true that no one should be coerced into
treatment, the reverse is also true that no one should be denied treatment
if they want it. Ultimately, it is an issue of personal freedom and
self-determination.
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Myth: Organizations that try to help people to change are failing. |
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Some people are intent on discrediting the organizations who
help people who want to change. In reality, Evergreen and other
organizations are stronger today than they have ever been. Read the State of
the Organization messages given at Evergreen's
annual conferences. The following articles also provide some interesting
facts.
Are Exodus Ministries Flakey?
by Bob Davies, Executive Director Exodus International of North America
(Exodus is an umbrella organization of Christian ministries around the
world)
A survey published on the Internet says that 70 percent
of Exodus agencies have failed, mostly because the director returned to
active homosexuality. In reality, only eight (5%) have dissolved in the
past 18 years due to a director's return to homosexuality.
The Top Five Myths About Ex-Gay Ministry
by Bob Davies, Executive Director Exodus International of North America
(Exodus is an umbrella organization of Christian ministries around the
world)
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Myth:
Evergreen uses torturous shock
therapy to make people straight. |
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In the 1960s and 1970s, some therapists experimented with aversion
shock therapies in an attempt to help reorient clients. In these
therapies, when a male client was shown pictures of attractive men, he would
also receive an electric shock or be caused to vomit, which presumably would
produce an aversion for his attraction toward men. Shock therapies were
used for a short time for a number of behavioral problems, such as alcohol
dependence, drug addiction, and depression. Today, such treatments are
considered unethical and are not performed by reputable therapists.
Evergreen was organized in 1989 and has never participated
in, nor recommended aversion shock therapy.
Click here for more detail.
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Myth:
You can encourage same-gender sexual relationships and still be aligned with Church
doctrines. |
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Some LDS groups encourage same-gender sexual
relationships, yet pretend to still be completely aligned with the doctrine
of the Church. They rationalize that when individuals are attracted to the
same sex, they have no hope of a heterosexual marriage and family, and
therefore should be allowed same-gender sexual relationships. Some of these
groups even maintain a vague association with The Church of Jesus Christ of
Latter-day Saints. Evergreen International is the only known organization
that supports Church teachings and practices "without reservation or
exception."
Aligned with the
Church? by David Pruden,
Executive Director of Evergreen International
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Myth:
If you don't agree with the gay activists, you are a homophobe |
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Although activists fight for gay rights, they seem all too eager to limit
the free speech of those who don't agree with their agenda.
Reggie White
When Reggie White, pro football player and minister,
spoke about homosexual behavior as a sin, it brought a tidal wave of harsh
language from gay activists who branded him as "ignorant," "stupid," and
"backward."
Seven Things I Wish Pro-Gay People Would Admit
by Bob Davies
Bob lists seven areas where the extreme pro-gay agenda
could be tempered to be more fair to those who are not happy being gay and
want to change their lives.
Homophobia
by Jason Park
Homophobia is defined as an irrational hatred or fear of
homosexuality. Although there are legitimate cases of homophobia, modern use
of the term has been expanded to take on social and political meanings.
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