1. GET A HOLD OF YOUR EMOTIONS. After the bomb has been dropped in your lap,
it may be difficult to gain control of your emotional reaction (especially
true in a confrontation). While emotional reactions are part of being human,
try not to let your feelings get out of control. In your anger, sin not. Try
to limit your immediate reaction to lessen the strain on your relationship
with the person with same-sex attraction. If you've already had a 'blow up'
you can always work toward reconciliation.
2. FORGIVE. Release your anger, hurt and shame through forgiveness. This
prevents bitterness from setting in and speeds healing to you and your
relationship with the person. In addition to forgiving those who have hurt
you, ask God to forgive you for anything in your past that may have
contributed to this situation.
3. GET GOD'S PERSPECTIVE: Get your attitude in line with God's word. Having
a loved one experience same-sex attraction is not the end of the world.
Homosexuality is sin, but it is not the worst sin and it is not incurable.
God loves those who experience same-sex attraction.
4. KEEP LINES OF COMMUNICATION OPEN. Don't make every visit or conversation
a sermon on sin. Avoid arguing; be a listener.
5. DEMONSTRATE LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE. Although you cannot compromise God's
standards or condone sin, it is vital that your loved one understand that
your disapproval of sinful behavior is not a rejection of him. Don't
be afraid to hug and touch and listen. Don't exclude him/her from your life
or activities.
6. LET GO: Turn him/her over to God.
7. PRAY, FAST, AND WAIT. Prayer and fasting are powerful spiritual weapons
HOW TO RAISE A HETEROSEXUAL CHILD
by Alan Medinger
1. Both mother and father should have clearly defined roles.
2. The father affirms his son in his maleness, and his daughter in her
femininity.
3. The father is involved in the life of the family and exercises headship.
4. The father loves the mother.
5. The mother shows esteem for the father.
6. The parents respect the dignity and individuality of each child.
7. Both parents acknowledge absolute moral values.
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